Myths and Facts When it Comes to Self-Harm

Written by
Monica Abadir
Published on
May 29, 2023
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MYTH: “Self-Harming is always a suicide attempt”

FACT: It is absolutely crucial to differentiate between a suicide attempt and self-harm. People who self-harm don’t have the intention of dying, but instead are seeking temporary relief from deeply distressing emotions.

However, it is important to realize that self-harm is more common in people suffering from depression, bipolar disorder, eating disorders, and anxiety disorders, making them also at a greater risk for suicide.

MYTH: “Self-harm is attention-seeking behavior”

FACT: People who self-harm tend to feel two things afterward:

  • A temporary sense of relief
  • An intense shame

They tend to hide visible scars using makeup or clothing, and more often than not, keep it a secret.

MYTH: “Self-harm is a sign of weakness or a lack of religious upbringing and values”

FACT: In reality, self-harm has nothing to do with a lack of faith or values, but instead an intense need to escape from emotional pain. People who engage in self-harm often experience shame on different levels, amongst them, the feeling their coping mechanism is weak and less strong than other people.

It’s also important to note: self-harming can occur in the midst of a dissociative episode, which means the person is not fully present or aware of their actions.

MYTH: “Only young teenage girls engage in self-harming behaviors”

FACT: The prevalence of self-harm in males cannot be disregarded or trivialized. Research shows that this form of coping is used across genders, but evidence suggests that self-harm can look different, and take different forms between men and women.